When things are going great we tend to party (celebrate, coast and be comfortable)
When things are not going well we tend to ponder (rehash, rethink, regret).
It is pretty easy to go down the rabbit hole of missing things or people that were important to you (rehash, rethink, regret). Interestingly enough though, you can find events (or people) from your past that you can still miss and have a sense of loss around, even when they were not healthy for you and that relationship may have needed to end.
Most challenging for us all is when we dearly loved someone and they chose to leave or their earthly journey ends earlier than expected, therein lies the most heartbreaking loss.
The fact is this, if you are going to live, loss is a part of that. Simply put, you can't live and love without loss. If you going to put yourself out there and establish any kind of meaningful relationships, you have to accept that some of those ties will sever and unfortunately some relationships simply don't last.
Morbid? Maybe...but wait, there's more...
I have stopped trying to "get over it", I have decided my efforts will go into learning, healing, being a better person and moving forward despite the loss.
Life lesson learned? No matter how challenging the life event is, we can be/do better once we realize it is less about getting over it and more about learning to live with it.
