Embracing Your New Life...

When we suffer unimaginable loss it is so easy to quickly get stuck in that place. Your loss could be an unwanted separation from a loved one, a divorce or addiction taking your precious loved one away be it through distance or death.

Whatever your particular situation, these losses can throw us into a tailspin that can seem near impossible to break out of. So what are we to do?

I have often said it is about choice. Note that I did not say obvious or easy choices.

We can do nothing. We can stay in the cyclone of what will become dysfunction for years to come if we don't consciously decide (choose) that we are going to do what we can to move forward and, even if it is at a snail's pace, it doesn't matter as long as the direction is forward. You see, remaining in that suffering and not making any effort to move forward is by default a choice, as you have chosen to stay stuck in misery.

The past will always be what it is and there will never be any amount of wishing or regretting that will change it, not even a little bit. 

The choice remains, do I stay "here" or do I at least start making even the smallest of efforts to go "there". 

I chose to go "there" even when I didn't have the faintest of idea of what waited for me on the other side. I just knew if I stayed where I was, I had guaranteed myself a life of sadness, guilt, regret, anger and resentment, and I knew I could not live with that.

So, I encourage you to do today what I am trying daily to do. With all our set backs and imperfections, to everyday do something, anything to find a way forward.

I promise that if you do, one day you will be able to look back on where you were with a perspective of pride in how far you have come. Yes there will remain a sadness about the loss, it is normal to miss things that were once a joy in your life.

There is joy in your future if you choose to seek it out and accept nothing less than, despite your past loss. No matter what life's journey has brought to your doorstep, you only get one chance at this thing called life, what you do with it is up to you.

I hope you give yourself the gift of a joyous future starting today.

-SLR-