When You’re Trying to Hold the Line

There are days when loving someone in addiction feels like standing in the middle of moving ground.

You’re trying to care.
You’re trying to protect.
You’re trying to set boundaries that don’t feel like abandonment.

And sometimes it feels like every choice costs something.

You want to help — but not enable.
You want to stay close — but not lose yourself.
You want to be steady — even when everything feels unstable.

That is not a small thing to carry.

Some days you speak up.
Some days you step back.
Some days you hold firm.
Some days you soften.

None of that makes you inconsistent.

It means you are responding to a changing situation with a loving heart.

If you’re honest, there are moments when you wonder if your boundaries are too much…
or not enough.

Please remember this:

There is no perfect way to love someone through addiction.

There is only doing your best with what you know today — and giving yourself permission to adjust as things change.

If today feels complicated, try to be gentle with yourself.

You don’t have to get every decision right.
You don’t have to carry this flawlessly.

You just have to keep showing up in the ways you can.