When You Don’t Know What the Right Thing Is Anymore - Helping or hurting?
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When you love someone in addiction, you question every word.
Every boundary.
Every decision.
You wonder if you’re helping… or hurting.
Holding on… or letting go too much.
And most days, you’re just trying to do the least wrong thing.
If you’re honest, you probably wish someone would simply tell you what the “right” way is.
But there isn’t one.
There is only love doing its best inside a situation
that has no rules.
Some days you speak up.
Some days you stay quiet.
Some days you set a boundary.
Some days you soften it.
None of that makes you inconsistent.
It makes you human.
It means you are trying to love someone without losing yourself.
And that is one of the hardest things a parent or loved one will ever have to do.
If today feels confusing, please remember:
You are not failing because you don’t have all the answers.
You are showing up — and that matters more than you know.
Even when it doesn’t feel like enough.
-SLR
If you’d like more support on this journey, I’ve written several books for parents and loved ones loving someone through addictive addiction. If it feels helpful, you can explore them here.